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Raising Better Kids

Get some parenting tips from experts

Earlier this year I purchased 5 books, one of them was “The Gentle Discipline Book.”

The Gentle Discipline Book: How to raise co-operative, polite and helpful children
Book by Sarah Ockwell-Smith.

I like the fact that almost anything imaginable has been written.

In the course of trying to know how to communicate and raise kids better, I resolved to getting a copy of this book.

This book has made me aware of certain things I did not know when it has to do with dealing with kids.

For instance, it explored their psychology, their behaviours, their hierarchy of needs, what parent expect from kids that are not realistic and many other aspects.

You will be surprised to know that most things that worries you about your kids are quite common with kids generally.

Raising kids can be challenging but it good to know that we are alone.

I like to read or research stuffs, so I knew there is no way I will not read from experts regarding raising better kids and all that it entails.

Before I went for this book one of my major concern was communication with kids.

If there is a way of doing it by mere talking and both parties happy and satisfied at the end why not?

Why spank and stress if there are better options?

I am the type that can be strict sometimes but I want to get it right with kids.

I want to strick a balance and raise a reasonable, well behaved and not spoilt child.

Can I achieve it without engaging in a physical combat with a child?

This book has helped me a lot.

It is just one of those books you read and go back to for references.


Oh! I forgot to add I’m aware of “do not spare the rod and spoil the child.”

To be honest, most people use those lines to suit them.

So over to you now.

What book have you read lately?

Endeavour to read good books, not just gossips blogs or tweets. I mean try reading something long and engaging.

Reading is good for your brain and personal development ☺️

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When You Decide To Have Kids

There are people who do not want to have kids.

Are you surprised to hear that?

I have read or heard about that severally. I have seen elderly people say they never wanted kids. In fact, an elderly neighbour of over 30years never had kids.

One day while we met outside, she looked at my child and admired her.

“She is adorable. You lot are trying I never wanted one. I can’t give them the life they desire”, she said.

“One has to do what they can as a parent. I do not think I owe them an arm and a leg as a parent”, I responded and laughed.

She told me that every child deserves the best.
I simply agreed with her and we ended the chat and parted ways.

Like I had said, she was old, possibly in her 70’s and not so well but those were her views about having kids. I had known her husband when he was alive. I admired how they held hands and walked side by side each time they were out.

If I were to have this conversation with a younger person I would have argued more. We would have discussed further in details.

In my opinion, it is a great idea thinking of giving kids the best.

Like if you can do that,  why not?


They are yours and they deserve it and more.

However, one can only give what they have. This implies that you can give the best of what you already have.

For instance, some families can afford holiday to any destination of their choice while some can only  afford a quality family time to a local eatery or park.

Do what you can please. Be happy and contented.

I believe they are no set rules for parenting and these kids do not come with manuals🤣

While these create beautiful memories for kids and are needed I do not think it makes any child better than the other.

Kids will develop well, play and be creative regardless of luxury.

On a different note, I met someone at work who had a very different view regarding why she wouldn’t want to have kids.

She publicly mentioned it while we were all talking and having a laugh. I approached her later as I wanted to know more.

She believes she can’t look after a child. She thinks she wouldn’t have their time.

Her mother had her and left her with her granny while she pursued her career. She didn’t have any bond with her mum and had only lost her granny some years back.

According to her, she knew she would not be bothered with having a child to care for and all that. She was only 22years old and was preparing herself for sterilisation.

Sterilisation will means she enjoys her life freely without any fear of pregnancy that could lead to birthing babies.

Let me not bother you with the details of our chat. This young girl’s mind was made up.

Is it possible that her mother has failed her?

If her mum were there for her would she had reasoned differently?

Unfortunately, I can understand why some people have personal reasons why they wouldn’t want to have kids.

Yet there are those who do not think about the kids they already birthed.

There are those that simply have babies believing that God gives.

There are those that believe that relatives, friends or the society will help raise their kids.

This world we live is in truly great. I wouldn’t say unfair.

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Why this story?

Be a good parent. Even if that is the only thing you are good at.

Be the best you can.

Those dependents of yours rely greatly on you

Live for them

Model for them

Be there for them

You have a responsibility

You are their influencer

You are their first school and foundation in life.


We need a better society filled with individuals with good heads on their shoulders. Do your bit please🙏

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