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Living With HIV

Hello Friends, I’m posting a health related post today. Hope you had a great weekend?

I will be taking about HIV and our perception of sufferers.

I cared for a man who was in his late fifties last week. He was diagnosed with HIV about eight years ago but over time deteriorated as he wasn’t taking his medications judiciously as required of him.

“Vivien you always treat me very differently” he said to me. “People are always in a hurry to leave my room but you take your time”

I told him I was only doing what was required of me. This gentleman was so frail and needed lots of persuasion. In my opinion, it was quite draining especially emotionally, as he at times declined most nursing acts and I could see he was weak. He would tell me he wanted to be left alone.

Genuinely, I think anybody ill will want to get better and would comply with medical advice but when I come across patients like this I tend to believe that they are fighting a battle with their condition and even the tiniest acts can upset them. My first day with him was challenging but days went by and I had him again.

He was happy to see me this time, like old friends, we stayed friends all through that day. I felt fulfilled and better compared to the first day.

As a health personnel, we all become very protective and extremely cautious when we know patients have certain conditions. Please don’t blame us because no one would want to jeopardise their health in the course of saving the lives of others.

Nevertheless, I will urge my fellow nurses, doctors and other health staff to show love and affection to HIV/AIDS patients. With standard precaution measures; which ought to be part of our everyday practice, one should be able to practise safely.

The condition alone is a cross for them, let’s not make it any worse. They know what they have, they wake up every day and the condition is still same, any act to take their mind of it is much needed.

I don’t want to stress much in this post about the stigmatisation associated with HIV, it still exists regardless of the numerous awareness programmes. Unfortunately.

I have previously discussed HIV/AIDS in details. The post outlined what HIV/AIDS is, it’s symptoms, prevention and stigmatisation. It can be found here.

I will like you to read that too.

I have a soft spot for this condition, I’m happy to discuss and answer questions. Do leave a comment or contact me if you are affected by this post.

Other health posts can be found in the health category.

P.S: Confidentiality was strictly maintained throughout this post.

I recommend University of Derby Online Learning

Are you looking for an online learning that meets your need? I can tell you that University of Derby Online learning (UDOL) is the answer.

I was able to study along side my work and other family commitments. It was challenging but was worth it. I give God all the glory🙌🏼

UDOL has a lot to offer to both home and international students. The lecturers were wonderful and I found the chat forums very engaging. For instance, the tutors make out time to answer every single question asked by students.

My course was concluded last year but I went for the graduation this July. It felt so empowering being there with other students.

I was live @ Derby 20th July 2018

The ceremony went well and different people talked about the history of Derby and the University. They stressed on how much they value education and innovations.

Later on, there was a reception for UDOL students, which I enjoyed. I was able to meet some students and tutors that I have known virtually for months.

I strongly recommend this University if you want to further your studies but can’t find the time to attend campus lectures.

To every one across the globe whose graduation is around this time; a hearty congratulations from me to you. Your hard work has paid off. Enjoy 😊

The Mentor

Last week was an interesting one for me as I met a writer-friend online. This friend was actually keen to know a few things about my book publication and the protocols involved.

He asked questions nicely and I found his humility intriguing.

Being an online chat, I tried to answer his questions whenever I could. Having seen his online profile; which was the picture of a book, I had assumed he was a published author but as we chatted he made me understood that he was drafting his last chapters and have been in contact with several publishers.

I told him he was doing great because he was already promoting his work.

He told me about his Wattpad page where he has over 500k readers. I was impressed with his method and told him he was on the right path for his book.

I went on and created a wattpad page and over the next fews weeks will be uploading my book in chapters there😄 However, I do not think it is very encouraging if you are not published yet. I mentioned my concern to my friend and he said he had that under control.

I narrated my deal with the publishers with him, most of them he already knew. He was aware of the fact that most publishers would take 80% for each copy you sell and clearly doesn’t want to go through that route. I explained to him my idea of how kindle publishing works in Amazon and why I needed a publishing company for my first work.

Ha! Before I forget, he kept calling me mentor right from the very beginning. He told me that he was happy chatting with me as he had tried on countless occasions to connect with different local authors online but none responded to him.

Well, I try to respond to people most of the time, I can tell when I receive silly messages.

I am filled lots of book promotion ideas because that the phase I’m in now😄

As always, I love to learn from anybody and at any opportunity. This experience reminded me of my all-time quote “A candle loses nothing by lightening others”

It sounds like I’ve actually gotten a writer-buddy. We shared ideas and encouraged each other. Hopefully, we will push ourselves to produce our best.

Have you read my Midyear Gratitude post?

Who was the Mentor here?😄

See Who’s On Display

This is one of those times I can’t help but share with you all how overjoyed I feel.

I was overwhelmed few days ago to see my book “Happiness At last” next to the works of some great African Writers. Mere looking at that copy sitting next to theirs made me realise we can all dream big.

As though that wasn’t enough, the shop keeper had also put up a copy on display.

I’m doing my best to see this work of mine gets the publicity it can get so, I appreciate even the tiniest of acts.

Happiness At Last is available online via popular online stores like Amazon, Authorhouse, Barnes and Nobles etc and available in bookstores in London and Nigeria. More details can be seen here.

Over the next few weeks, I will be posting about my writing journey. Do look out for it.

On a different note, I hope your weekend goes well.

See you on the next post.

Do not be deceived by ‘Love’

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Love is one of the commonest words we’ hear. For instance, someone must have said to you, “I love you” or you must had heard people express their love for each other.

I have learnt that we should love another especially for the fact that we are all created in the image of God.

Regardless, lots of people have been deceived by the word Love. I have close friends who have been hurt, deceived or betrayed by someone who they loved simply because they have believed that nothing would go wrong by the mentioning of Love.

This shouldn’t be happening but sadly, it does happen. There are people who in my opinion have either lost their mind or simply have no conscience because of the way they treat their fellow human beings. The rate at which lives have been ruined by the the usage of the word love is appalling.

I am not saying we shouldn’t believe people who profess Love to us but I want us to love sensibly. I know they say when you are in love you don’t think well or reason properly. Guys, it’s just like saying thinking with your head and and not be carried away by emotions.

I know it’s good to be in love and trust me, it’s one of the best feelings in the world. However, I urge you to guide your heart ❣, look after it and make sure that the person you trust with it knows the true value.

Finally, whatever you do, do love sensibly. I hope your love brings you true happiness.

If you like this post, you will like my book Happiness At Last.